Adult dating sites are always contentious. Some people refuse to use them, some people use them exclusively. They cause debate on morality and a range of other issues. As you’d be aware of by now though, at Dating Down Under, we aren’t really interested in these types of opinions. We are open minded enough to know that people like these sites, so they obviously provide a valuable service somewhere. So we’d rather take the position of advising you of some of the pros, cons, dangers and rewards this category of dating site exposes you to, so you can be better prepared if you decide adult dating is for you.
As such, we have put together a page on our website to review adult dating sites. We only put up sites on this page, which we have vetted and believe offer a high value service. There are many sites out there which we have reviewed and found lacking. These substandard sites are fraught with dangers, some of which we list below, putting you and your finances at risk. You can visit and read our reviews of our “safer” adult dating sites at the following link:
Adult Dating Sites
Dangers Of Adult Dating Sites
There are many dangers with adult dating sites. The dangers these sites pose to men tend to be different to women, so we have split these up and summarised them below:
Adult Dating Sites – Dangers To Women Typically the dangers a woman faces from these sites are dangers to her “person”. These sites tend primarily to emphasise open sexuality in dating, and therefore there is an expectation that a date will quickly escalate into a sexual encounter. Obviously problems can quickly arise where the expectations of a date differ between the participants.
So the best advice we can give to women is to not put yourself in a position of physical vulnerability, until you are completely sure that is where you want to be with a person. Make sure your first date is in a public place, if for no other reason than to ensure the person matches the photo and the other details on the dating site.
And only escalate when you feel safe and comfortable with your partner.
This is pretty sound advice to anyone who is dating. But due to the sexual expectations surrounding adult dating sites, it is especially important here.

Adult Dating Sites – Dangers To Men The biggest threats to men on these sites, are not dangers to their person, rather dangers to their wallet. Adult dating sites are packed with scammers, and unfortunately, most (but not all) of them are pretty women. Exactly the type of women you expected to meet on the site.
Some Adult Dating scams: 1900 phone number scams. You can be contacted by someone who wants you to call them on a 1900 number. These phone calls cost you a packet, the scammer actually profits from the phone call. They will never meet you, all they want is for you to call so they make some money.
Scammers who want you to come to their site/see their pics/see their webcam. Its the same deal. These girls want your money, not to meet you. Their websites will always be pay per view or pay to signup, so you pay, and they get paid.
Scammers who are looking for a way out of their country. Yes, these scammers can be pretty persuasive, but if you are looking for an international introduction, an adult dating site is not the right place to be. Go to a profession internation introductions site, where the professionals who run it will protect you to some degree from being scammed.
The best advice men can take on board when facing these dangers is simply to remember why you came to the site. You came to meet like minded people to form a hot and steamy relationship with. You didn’t join these sites to give your hard earned cash up to people you’ll never meet.

For a woman to truly feel cherished, she needs to be constantly reminded that she is loved. Sometimes men think that one grand gesture should have him off the hook for a long time. Let’s equate a woman’s heart to a car’s gas tank. One grand gesture is like trying to go to the station and put 100 gallons in the tank so it will run for a long time. It’s just not how it works – paying for 100 gallons still only gets you about 2 weeks of driving before you have to fill up again. The simple explanation is that women forget how the gesture made her feel. To keep her the happiest, I suggest planning a small romantic surprise about every two weeks.
Men are more like bank accounts – if you put in a big deposit – every penny counts and it should last you a while. A woman is able to make a combination of different sized deposits to keep her man happy. Maybe a big romantic gesture one month and a small one next month. In a man’s world – one carefully planned, great romantic surprise could last him several months! To keep him happiest, I suggest planning a romantic surprise about every six weeks – using a combination of small and bigger treats for him.
Men are expected to be there for the big days such as holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. If they don’t show up big for those, then they hear about it until the next time around. But one of the best ways to show your affection to a woman is to do something romantic when there’s no specific reason to celebrate. Keep her on her toes. Keep her guessing. Don’t just show up on the days when you know you’re on the wrong side of an argument or when everything is going right for you. It is all about her and the celebration of her. That said, try to do something romantic for her 3 to 4 times a month. Women are all about the little things because when we do something often, it shows that we are constantly thinking about them and that we care.
Men like to be rewarded for their actions. When they have been on a great streak in the relationship and seem to be saying and doing all the right things – that is the time to reward them. Otherwise it can become very frustrating and it turns that part of the man’s brain off to be creative and do things for her.
There is a give and take process that is extremely important to men, and if that is disturbed enough times than the giving from his side will not only decrease, but begin to lack in the creativity department as well. Men like bigger gestures but less frequently than women. Therefore, as a guy I would say something romantic once a month or so is what we look for.